It’s Valentine’s Day. A day all about LOVE. A day where everyone is on social media posting pictures with Bae. A day where some singles can’t wait for the day to be over. Love, the one thing we cannot live without. Love makes the world go round. It’s better to have loved than to not have loved at all.
Reality Check. If you are upset because you are single you are being selfish. When you’re selfish it’s ALL about you and no one else. I’ve learned that the biggest reward in life is to be selfless. When you are selfless you take the attention off yourself. It’s not all about you because you know it’s so much more rewarding when you make someone else smile. If you find yourself being bitter over the holiday, do something nice for someone else. If you know anyone that is going through a rough time, go and brighten up their day with balloons and a card. The smallest gesture can really make someone’s whole day. Maybe, no one thought about making your day special and you are upset about it. You want to hide until tomorrow, don’t hide, do your hair, get cute, and, step out the house with confidence and a huge smile . Show love to someone else anyway. We live in a world where people think it’s all about them. It’s not. If you look at the people who are the happiest and most peaceful , they live selflessly.
It’s absolutely okay to be single. It is not a curse! Please do not start questioning your self-worth as a woman. Do not let the devil play games with you today. YOU ARE WORTHY. YOU ARE SPECIAL. YOU ARE LOVABLE. YOU ARE THE ONE SOMEONE IS PRAYING FOR. YOU DESERVE GODS BEST. Not someone who doesn’t reply to your text or calls. Not someone who doesn’t treat you like a QUEEN. Not someone who verbally/mentally abuses you. YOU DESERVE THE BEST! Don’t ever forget that.
I’ve been single for about 2 years now. Me and my ex completely stopped talking in July of last year. He got someone else pregnant and proposed to her. I was hurt. I was mad as hell, and I really wanted to destroy everything he had with that woman. But, I didn’t. I took that loss and I dealt with the pain the best way I knew how. I was not taking care of myself at all. I indulged in self-destructive behavior until November 25th 2016. That was the first day of complete change. I put the bottle down and chose celibacy. It was hard. I was so broken, I had no idea how I was going to survive. One thing I did know was that I had to get my sh*t together.
Almost 3 months sober and my life has completely changed. I am not mad about being single because I know God is going to give me one of his best sons walking this earth. I am not sad about being single because I am working on being my best self. I am working on being patient, loving, and kind. I am working on my passion, my dreams, my goals. I am working on the thing that God put me here for. I’m not even 30 yet and I’ve suffered so much. I am not ashamed of my testimony because women need to hear it. It breaks my heart when I see women being unhappy and ungrateful because they are single. Being in a relationship should not be the end goal.
What is your purpose? What makes you genuinely happy? What brings you peace? What will people remember you as when you pass away? I totally understand we are not meant to be alone, but, please don’t rush it, do not settle. Use this time wisely. WORK ON YOU! HEAL THOSE WOUNDS. GROW SPIRITUALLY. BECOME YOUR BEST SELF! God didn’t make you to be regular and settle for scraps, HE MADE YOU FOR HIS ABSOLUTE BEST.
This day is all about LOVE. JESUS LOVES YOU. Your worth is not found in these worldly things. The longer you keep seeking a human being for approval, the longer you will delay the peace and joy you were purposely made for. Don’t give up.